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4 August 2019 

The 8 most important triggers of inner Unsafety that you never knew about

You know that we help you with the transition from Inner Unsafety to Inner Safety so you can accelerate your Self-Love. But what is Inner Unsafety and when do you experience it the most?

Let’s start with Inner Unsafety, what is it?

You feel inwardly unsafe when you are triggered in an old memory, in an old feeling. This can be in the distant past or in the recent past but it is always an echo of something that happened to you in the past. It’s never in the now. Although the emotions of panic, anger, fear, etc. occur in the now, the emotion itself is not from the now. It is from the past. It’s a reaction to a misconception that you’ve made; it’s an interpretation of the reality, your interpretation of what happened.

 I think we can all relate to that. We all have feelings of being inwardly unsafe.

But when exactly does inner unsafety show up in your life? Does it only kick in when something dramatic happens? Or does it also manifest itself in every-day-situations?

The answer is that it happens in both situations.

We know by experience that you can easily feel inwardly unsafe at least 20-30 times a day in every-day-situations. And we also know that most people don’t recognize these moments of inner unsafety.

That’s why we have listed 8 of the most important triggers of Inner Unsafety for you.


1. When you avoid something or someone

You avoid looking at your bank account. You don’t share your needs. You postpone something even though you know you have a deadline. You don’t address what needs to be addressed. You are being perfectionistic because you’re afraid to fail.

2. When you feel uncomfortable

You feel uncomfortable in a discussion or argument. You feel uncomfortable to start something new or to go somewhere new. You feel uncomfortable being with certain people. You feel uncomfortable with your body. You feel uncomfortable to get feedback or to give feedback. You feel uncomfortable when responsibilities aren’t clear, when communication isn’t clear or when roles aren’t clear.

3. When you feel overwhelmed

You feel overpowered. You feel dominated. You feel controlled. You feel overruled. You feel stressed. Suddenly an unpleasant memory overwhelms you. Suddenly an unpleasant emotion overwhelms you.

4. When you feel small

You feel belittled. You feel rejected. You feel invalidated. You feel judged. You are being jealous. You compare yourself with others. Someone is looking at you in a certain way. You feel unsuccessful.

5. When you feel vulnerable

You always think and feel you’re not good enough. You’re not at ease with addressing an uncomfortable issue. You don’t share a vulnerable topic. You are afraid that others talk about you. You are afraid that others steal your ideas. Your customer is not satisfied with your work. When a different opinion is not tolerated.

6. When you are feeling frustrated

People don’t do what you want them to do. Things don’t go the way you expected them to go. People do what you don’t want them to do. You don’t get what you want. When you lose. You don’t get instant results. When you are being impatient.

7. When you don’t feel heard and acknowledged

You don’t feel heard and acknowledged by your partner, by your friends and family, at your work, on social media. The other person (partner, boss, colleagues, customer…) is dominant and bitchy.

8. When you are not feeling aligned

You and your partner aren’t aligned. You don’t have a common goal in your family, at your work, with your customers… Someone else is claiming your victories. You aren’t being a stand for something or for yourself. You aren’t being in sync with your energy.


affirmatie inwardly unsafeThe impact of these triggers of Inner unsafety on people’s daily life can be gigantic. People give in to all kind of addictions to avoid feeling the pain. They give in to alcohol, drugs or nicotine addiction, food addiction, shopping addiction and many more. And when people want to cure their addiction they focus on the addiction instead of focussing on their Inner Unsafety.

Use this list help you recognize the triggers of your own inner unsafety because recognizing these triggers is the first step in dealing with your inner unsafety. The second step is to acknowledge it and to accept that you are feeling inwardly unsafe. This can already bring you relief. To help you prepare to release your unsafety further say this mantra out loud: I feel (fear, panic, small, overwhelmed, vulnerable…) because I feel inwardly unsafe.

This acknowledgment mantra will prepare you and your subconscious mind to deal with and to transform and release your inner unsafety.

About the author
We are Briant [1958] & Jaldhara [1960] both Dutch. We started with personal development in our early twenties. And the inner journey we've made till so far in this lifetime, has gradually forged us into the Leaders in Inner Safety we are today. Our gift to you is our lifelong experience in facilitating the shift from Inner Unsafety to Inner Safety. In this process you will transition from Inner Turmoil to Inner Peace, from Inner Captivity to Inner Freedom and from Self-Denial to Self-Love.
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